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Real friends share confidences, accept faults

Friends! They are the most important folks in our lives aren't they? Well, at least, the most following family. I hope that readers who have been divorced, remain friends with the divorced spouse and even more so if that marriage produced children.

Friends! They are the most important folks in our lives aren't they? Well, at least, the most following family. I hope that readers who have been divorced, remain friends with the divorced spouse and even more so if that marriage produced children.

Life would never have been so sweet if we hadn't had friends. We lose some but we make new ones as long as we are able to get out and about. One of my favorite saying regarding friends is one by Edwin Markham:

He drew a circle that shut me out,

Heretic, rebel a thing to flout.

But I had the love to perceive and win

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I drew a circle that took him in.

Ruth Millet told a story she entitled, "One True Friend ... A Real Treasure." She wrote several short statements to answer the question "Who are your real friends?' The following are selected statements that she used to describe real friends. The friends are the ones that you:

Think of first when you have good news to share, because you know they'll be happy for you.

Confide in because your confidences will be kept.

Make an effort to keep in touch with through the years, no matter how far apart, geographically, you are.

Who will accept or overlook your faults as you do theirs.

Who don't hold a grudge after an argument or difference of opinion.

Who speak well of you behind your back - not just to your face.

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Can count on to do what they say they will do.

Feel better after having been with them.

Who give you an immediate feeling of pleasure when calling or writing.

We said that we don't have too many real friends in a lifetime, but if there are even a few, we are lucky, far luckier that the person who boasts of having hundreds of friends. Friends are real and nobody has hundreds of "real" friends.

I couldn't have put it that succinctly and yet have covered the topic. I'll bet you will agree wholeheartedly with Ruth Millet. And yet, please go back and check Edwin Markham's statement again. Unless you have too many friends, you may want to make that circle a little wider too.

We wish our friends the following plus: (the ones you will want to add).

Courage in difficult days, smiles when sadness intrudes, laughter to kiss their lips, beauty for their eyes to see, confidence for when they are in doubt, courage to know themselves, patience to accept the truth and love to complete their lives.

And, of course, what would friends be without humor:

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The holy passion of friendship is of so sweet and steady and loyal and enduring a nature that it will last through a whole lifetime, if not asked to loan money.

When you make a fool of yourself, a true friend doesn't feel that you've done a permanent job.

Trouble teaches you two things: how many friends you have and how many people are waiting to catch you bent over.

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