‘Sometimes what is best comes from restriction not liberty’“Get Into’s” is a title a friend of mine uses in reference to children’s activities. He came by this from hearing parents say: “I want my child(ren) to get into ...”
By: Pastor Mark Holmes, Superior Telegram
“Get Into’s” is a title a friend of mine uses in reference to children’s activities. He came by this from hearing parents say: “I want my child(ren) to get into ...”
The problem, “Get Into’s” can turn into “Get Out Of’s” once the parents realize the commitment necessary for participation. What first appeared as a productive activity can become a destructive influence to both child and family.
I believe answering a few relevant questions, can reduce these future regrets. Here are a few to consider:
1. Will the program have a holistic impact on your child’s life? I’m not talking just their developing years, but their retirement years and eternity after that.
2. Does the program exist to develop the child or develop the program?
3. What provides the greatest reward to effort ratio? Some activities enable realistic achievement, but others are impossible dreams.
4. How much time will it demand? Will the results justify the investment?
5. What sacrifices will the family have to make? Are they fair?
6. How much are you (the parent) willing to participate?
7. Is this really something for your child or are you living vicariously through him or her?
Malevolent forces aren’t the only thing that can tear apart our families. It is also the actions of best intentions.
We all want the finest for our children, and many parents feel pressured to give in, but sometimes what is best comes from restriction not liberty. Realizing this can prevent Get Into’s from becoming Get Out Of’s.
Pastor Mark Holmes is an ordained minister in the Wesleyan Church and has served the Darrow Road Wesleyan Church since 1997.