Tone of voice speaks volumesHave you ever wished you had not said something to somebody? Probably a foolish question since I imagine every one of us have.
By: Bernie Hughes, Superior Telegram
Have you ever wished you had not said something to somebody? Probably a foolish question since I imagine every one of us have. I know I have — too many times. Usually when a little bit emotional, right? Maybe even anger and anger is just one letter short of danger. Unfortunately for me at times, anger has made my mouth work much faster than my mind.
My later regrets have always been on the what that I’d said. The other day a lady at the Superior Clinic had a poem entitled. Tone of Voice, on her office wall. I’m a sucker for poems that rhyme and read it increasingly impressed. So impressed, in fact, that she noticed and gave me a copy.
In case you are anything like me, you can benefit from reading it as well. It reminded me of an old saying, “It is the little things in life that put you on the rack; you can sit upon a mountain, but not upon a tack.”
Most times when I have berating myself, it was for words that I’ve said. This poem the lady gave me, makes it abundantly clear that the HOW is every much as important as the what.
Hopefully, I’m not too old to learn this very important message.
Tone of Voice
It’s not so much what you say
As the manner in which you say it;
It’s not so much the language you use
As the tone in which you convey it.
Words may be mild and fair
But the tone may pierce like a dart;
Words may be soft as the summer air
But the tone may break my heart;
For words come from the mind
Grown by study and art
But tone leaps from the inner self,
Revealing the state of the heart.
Whether you know it or not,
Whether you mean to or care,
Gentleness, kindness, love and hate,
Envy, anger are there.
Then, would you quarrels avoid
And love and peace rejoice?
Keep anger not only out of your words
Keep it out of your voice.
— Author Unknown
Maybe these closing comments aren’t humorous - more advice for other folks:
Speak when you are upset and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret.
I shouldn’t get angry with someone who knows more than I do. After all, it is not their fault.
Montana Indian friend told me that you can’t shake hands with a clenched fist.
We need to watch our temper; the emptier the pot, the quicker it boils.