Commitments shows strength of character
It is “love.”
One reason men find it difficult to utter “love” is it expresses an emotion, something with which men are uncomfortable — not that we do not have emotions. We are just careful where and when we share them. In the masculine mindset, sharing emotions can be an admission of vulnerability, a weakness we would rather not make known. So, what we feel and what we share can be two different things.
Another reason, men have trouble saying the word love, is it expresses commitment — a condition with which the modern American male struggles today.
I believe refusing commitment is the path of least resistance, taken by lesser men. It takes strength, character, and integrity to commit to something. Lacking these qualities makes one wary of promises.
The very word that men have trouble expressing is the one word that Jesus often used, both by word and action. His greatest expression of love came through the cross. He was able to be sacrificed there because of His impeccable character. He willingly suffered there because of His unwavering commitment to make salvation possible. He desired to die there to express His love for us all.
“Greater love has no man than this, than to lay down his life for a friend.” (John 15:13)
Pastor Mark Holmes is an ordained minister in the Wesleyan Church and has served the Darrow Road Wesleyan Church since 1997.